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Tips To Focus Better During Meditation

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With any beginner meditation practice, it can be discouraging to be unable go a long time without losing focus. Well, here’s some news: even long-term meditators find it hard to go on a lengthy meditation session without losing focus. And many also know and accept that meditation requires a lifetime of practice.

Even then, you have to keep in mind that meditation isn’t really about achieving and maintaining an unwavering focus but mostly about knowing when you lose focus and being mindful enough to bring yourself back to the present.  And the best part is being able to do this as many times as needed until you can maintain focus for as long as it is possible for you.

In this article on focusing better during meditation, I’ll discuss some tips you can apply to improve your meditation focus and practice. Used regularly, these meditation focus tips will help you make the most of your sessions.  You can also check this article on how to meditate if you’re starting or could use a few beginner meditation tips

                     Tips For Concentrating Better During Meditation

Begin With Shorter Sessions

When starting a meditation practice, it can be easy to want to set a long time for your meditation sessions. However, it is best not to, as prolonged meditation at the beginning could be demotivating, especially when you are unable to maintain your focus for a long time. Start with five minutes. Then, work your way up as you improve at the practice. With time, it becomes easier to achieve and maintain your focus for longer.

Minimize Distractions

One of the most effective ways to maintain focus and concentrate better during meditation is through practicing it in a quiet place. Set up a calm and relaxing space devoted to the practice. Also, ensure that the area is as free as possible of distractions, strong smell, or human or pet traffic while at it.

Pick The Most Suitable Time

What time are you best able to practice meditation without distractions? Consider this when starting a meditation practice to help you make the best use of your sessions.

For some meditators, nightly meditation before sleep offers the most benefit; for others, mornings, right after they wake, is excellent. Whichever you decide on, make sure it is one that affords you ample time to refocus or calm your mind depending on your meditation goal.

Allow The Thoughts In And Out

Acknowledge that your mind will wander, and the thoughts will come and allow them. However, try as best as you can to avoid focusing on the thoughts. Do not analyze them, at least not when you should be meditating.

Also, keep in mind that these random thoughts and even images can appear in your mind for no particular reason. And even while it can be tempting to focus on them, you should not spend time on them or try to force them away. Give them the freedom to appear, and when you choose not to concentrate on them or try to push them out, they should disappear just as they came. Then, you can gradually shift your mind back to your meditation practice.

Use Your Breath To Improve Your Focus

Again, it is entirely normal for random thoughts to appear during meditation. And if they seem to appear too frequently, breathing can be one way to regain focus. When you notice your mind has wandered or the random thoughts and images appear, slowly take a deep breath and pay attention to how you feel doing it, and return to the meditation or repeat if needed.

Meditation Music

Enjoyable and relaxing, a meditation or relaxation music can help you achieve and maintain your focus during meditation. Take time to observe and hear all of the instruments and sounds blended to make the music as you try to relax and refocus.

Don’t Take It Too Seriously

While meditation is no doubt an important activity, it doesn’t have to be a serious one. When meditating, keep it simple and relaxing.

Pick a comfortable posture, a smile on your face if you want, and your muscles relaxed. You can even have a friend or two join your sessions or join a meditation class closest to you. Remember, a meditation session can be fun and therapeutic at the same time.

Remind Yourself Of All Of Meditation’s Benefits

When starting to meditate, it can be easy for any beginner to become demotivated from the lack of visible benefits or inability to focus during the sessions. Don’t let this be you. Remember why you started, and all you stand to gain if you continue practicing meditation.

Journal Your Meditation Experience

As you start and improve your practice, write down your experiences/how you feel before and after each meditation session. Don’t hold back. Include details like the thoughts you get, your feelings, and mood changes before and after each meditation session. Also include the ideas or perspectives you gained after each meditation session. Journaling your experience would help you stay motivated and disciplined enough to continue the practice.

Don’t Rush Your Meditation Sessions

This is one of the reasons a meditation space is essential. Avoid disruptions and resist the urge to rush into your sessions, and then rush out to a different activity.

Learn to finish each meditation session gently and, if possible, sit a few minutes to process the experience at the end of the session. Depending on your meditation posture, you may also want to stretch your body and then journal your experience, including the ideas or inspiration you received during the practice.

Embrace Your Experiences No Matter The Difference

Meditation sessions can yield different experiences, and all of these experiences have to be embraced. Some days, you may feel joy, warmth, sadness, calmness, or even frustration at the practice. This is normal. Accepting that these varying experiences are some of the things that makes the practice intriguing will help you keep at it.

How To Focus Better During Meditation: Conclusion

When learning how to meditate or trying to improve your meditation practice, focusing can be challenging for many people. And this can happen irrespective of the type of meditation. I discussed some of the tips you can apply to improve your meditation focus in this article. With consistency, you should see your concentration improve and your overall wellbeing better for it.

Thoughts/questions on how to focus better when you meditate? Share in the comment section below.

Dawn is a health and fitness enthusiast, a massage therapist and she also loves to write!

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Mindful Strategies For Recovering From Loss

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Losses are devastating and recovery can often seem worse; we are flooded with all kinds of emotions: sadness, regrets, frustrations, disillusionment, and anger.  And even though we wish they could all go away, these emotions take their sweet time and can overwhelm even the strongest of us if we allow them. We begin to dread the coming days as nothing seems to get better.

The fact is, grief is something most of us have and will experience at some point in our lives. Whether it’s the loss of a friendship, a romantic relationship, death or even a material possession; loss is painful. So, what can you do to cope better? How do you recover from loss mindfully?

I’ll share some effective mindful strategies to help you cope with and recover from loss and grief. Before anything, you have to understand that no recovery strategy will make it all go away in one day. Healing takes time but you can rest assured that when these strategies are implemented, you will come out on the other side a stronger, better and more aware you. Give it time.

Request For And Accept All The Support You Can Get

No one has to go through grief alone. It’s not “weak” to seek and get help from people who care about you. Freely request and accept help from friends, family, support groups and spiritual leaders. There is nothing weak or shameful about requesting for the help you need to get through the trauma.

Take Mindful Walks

Walks! Good old strategy for getting out of stressful situations. Going for brief walks outdoors can help you take your mind off of things even though temporarily. You also get to leave the loneliness behind especially if the indoors have been a huge trigger.

Make the walks brief. Just a 5 or 10-minute walk will do. Begin by standing with your feet secured on the ground. Then, slowly raise your chest, pull back your shoulders to release your posture and begin the walk.

As you begin your walk, take note of your every breath you take and let out. Feel each breath as it flows through you and purifies your entire being before it is exhaled.

Practice Yoga

If you’ve been practicing yoga, then this is an opportunity to put your years of practice into use. Even if you are a yoga newbie or have never even practiced it, now is the time to take up the practice.

Yoga is effective against anxiety and is also known for its mood-boosting quality. The best part? Even the simplest parts of the routine such as focused breathing and moving during your poses and postures can do a world of good to your mental and physical health. Plus, it keeps you from dwelling excessively on the grief. If you want, you can join a yoga class or invite a friend or two to join in your practice.

Quiet Reflection

As much as you would want to keep your mind and body distracted from the trauma with as many activities as possible, you can still benefit from quiet reflections. Quiet reflection works on all kinds of traumas. And it’s simple to apply.

Sit and think about the other times in the past when you had to cope with trauma whether minor or major. Think about the strategies you applied and how you finally made it out of that experience successfully. Then, try to pull together these strategies and apply them to your current circumstance. You did it before, now you have the experience to do it better.

Allow Yourself Feel The Grief

Sometimes, the pain hits harder than before and there is no escaping it. Don’t try to. Instead, feel the emotion, its depth and let yourself slowly and mindfully breathe through each wave of grief. Not only does doing this helps you stay grounded, but it also helps to bring you back to the present.

Breathe Work

A technique derived from Tai Chi, Breathe Works, just like mindful walking, has proven to be helpful in stressful situations. Start by sitting upright in a comfortable area with your feet planted firmly on the ground. Take 3 short inhalations, and exhale one. Repeat the sequence up to five times or even more if you want.

Imagine A New Life

It’s hard to imagine what tomorrow will be like when you’re overwhelmed with grief. But you still have to try. You don’t have to see the entire picture right now. Start small; each day, try to imagine a future without the present grief.

Yes, it is raining today but you have to remember that it won’t rain forever no matter how much it rains. Start seeing the sunshine from your imagination and soon, you will start to look forward to this new life.

Counting Sensations In Three

A few times each day, devote 5 minutes of your time to this exercise. While sitting or standing, listen closely for 3 sounds, observe 3 smells, find 3 things, feel 3 textures and if possible taste 3 things within your environment. This practice brings your mind back to the present moment. As you observe, touch, taste, smell these things, thank each one them for the awareness they bring you.

Mindful Strategies For Recovering From Loss: Conclusion

It’s easy for us to admire and praise others who picked up their broken pieces and rose above their traumas. However, when we are faced with grief, navigating our way out of it can seem impossible.

But no matter how much it hurts, we have the ability to rise through it all. Seek and accept help, draw strength from within, implement helpful mindfulness practices, do anything that helps you let go of the past and transform your life for better.

Allow the past remain in the past; you don’t live there anymore. Yes, it will take time, but allow every step you take lead you forward; not drag you back to your pain.

And it’s alright if you never completely get over the loss (do we ever fully get over any significant loss?), it is part of the things that make you a living being. You have emotions, feel, express and learn from them. And in the end, if you allow it, you will be transformed into a better version of you.

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Mindful Travels: How To Meditate On Your Trip

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Many believe meditation should be reserved for those periods when you’re home alone or with others but somehow manage to snatch some alone time. Wrong! Meditation can be practiced ANYWHERE even when traveling. And if you have a phobia for flying, meditation is a practice you should begin now.

In-flight hours are great opportunities to practice meditation and mindfulness. Meditation offers several benefits including helping to ease anxiety and stress. And if you fly or travel via any means frequently, it is a practice you should make a part of your travel routine.

Doing so not only helps to keep you from feeling anxious during the flight, you’ll arrive at your travel destination grounded and more balanced.

Meditating When You Eat

During trips whether local or international, you’ll likely come across new meals or variations of the meals you know. While introducing your buds to something new and tasty is always a delight, it is also an awesome opportunity to practice mindfulness.

Mindfully pay attention to the ingredients of a meal. Attempt remembering each and every single ingredient as you eat.  Slowly eat to enjoy the whole experience of nourishing yourself. This will improve your digestion. Slowly and thoroughly chew and swallow every spoonful.

When swallowing, do so mindfully to savor the taste of the food and drink

When snacking on fruits, nuts or any other healthy snack, see it as an opportunity for refreshing meditation experience. For example, you can take a single cracker or an apple slice and transform it eating it into a new meditation experience.

Try to remain completely aware of the process of chewing, every bite you take, and when it hits your taste buds before swallowing.

Meditating In a Security Line

If you’re flying, you’ll probably have to wait in long lines at security. Seize the opportunity to shut your eyes, and take out some to get your breath in tune.

Deeply inhale to allow air into your lungs and pause briefly at the top, then exhale deeply pausing again before your next breath. As you breathe, take note of the qualities of each breath; the sensation and texture as the air moves in and out of your nostrils.

Open your eyes briefly to take some steps forward when it’s your turn to move ahead in line. Continue the meditation where you stopped till you leave the security line.

Meditating At Takeoff

If takeoff makes you nervous, then you should include meditation in your takeoff routine. True, it may seem daunting to meditate during a not-so-fascinating part of your flight but it is exactly why you should do it.

However, to successfully do this, you’ll need to use a pair of earphones or earplugs.  A guided meditation on your phone or tab will also be needed. A guided meditation will help you ease into relaxation by taking the edge off if you’re often worried or fearful about takeoffs.

Meditating During the Flight

If it’s your first flight or you always feel nervous during flights, meditation can help.

Not a few people fear flying and most still find it hard to set aside their fears even when flying is known to be the least likely transportation method to be involved in a crash.

If that is you, a meditation mantra will go a long way in taking your mind into a much quieter and focused place.  The flight mantra will help bring to your mind a sense of restful awareness. Try the following lines after you’ve taken a few deep and mindful breaths for a calmer and enjoyable flight.

Inhale, and then silently say “I am safe.”

Inhale; silently say “I am joyful.”

Exhale, and then say, “I am at peace.”

Repeat the lines of mantra for 10 – 15 minutes (or more if you want). You may need to set a timer to know when exactly to stop. When it ends, spend a few more minutes focusing on your breath, letting your eyes stay shut and breathing in and out through your nose before opening your eyes. You should feel more peaceful after.

Meditating At Landing

Just like during takeoff, many have fears of landing. One way to direct your attention from the entire experience of landing is by directing your attention away from the experience and visualizing the activity after landing.

You can try:

Imagining the arrival, the people you’ll meet, the culture, food; just any exciting detail about the vacation without the landing itself in focus.

On a business trip, visualize the reason you’re traveling, the training or meeting. Imagine every single activity going just as planned.

Relieve all of these memories in detail no matter the purpose of your trip and doing so will help calm you as the plane lands.

Meditating In Your Accommodation

Finally, you’re at your destination. While accommodation will differ from place to place and some facilities without a meditating or quiet area, it is still not a good reason to skip meditation.

Shut off all distractions like your smartphone, the TV, and the tabs then find a comfortable area of your room to meditate. You can devote 15 minutes or more each day to meditating and it shouldn’t matter if you’re sharing the room with others or staying alone.

If you have to stay in a dormitory and find it too rowdy for proper meditation, find a time in the day when it’s quiet to meditate. Or ask the staff if there’s a quiet place you can go to meditate for some time. If they have a place, make use of it daily and if they don’t, try meditating in the dorm till you leave.

Tips For Meditating Better When You Travel

There are several things you can do to improve your meditation and mindfulness when you travel, we outlined some of them below.

Listen to music

Listening to calming music is one way you can improve your meditation when traveling. It can be done on any part of your journey; at takeoff, mid-flight, landing, etc.

The best part? You only need your portable gadget e.g. a smartphone, an iPad or a tab. Listen mindfully to each note, instrument, and the words within the music as you meditate.

Dwell in the present

Meditation should help you be more in tune with your environment. During your trip, you’re naturally more aware of the new environment. However, taking everything in can be daunting and even impossible and that itself can cause some distress until you grow comfortable with it.

Thankfully, meditation can help to ease and bridge the shock of the new with the comfort that can only be derived from discovering new things and meeting new people. When you meditate, you’ll also be able to remain mindful of things deserving of more attention during your trip.

Breathe right

Breathing properly is essential for effective mediation. A good breathing technique would be effective at calming your body’s natural response to stress and tune out negative thoughts.

When meditating on transit and at any point, inhale for four counts allowing your stomach to expand while you do it and then exhale for eight counts. Do this for five minutes or more. You can either allow it to steer you into deeper meditation or repeat whenever you feel anxiety or fear creeping in.

Use a meditation app

If you’re just starting out at meditation, meditation apps are great options to consider when traveling. These apps help you stay focused by allowing you shift some amount of responsibility into a more effective guide.

Simply have them installed on your phone, plug in your earphones, close your eyes and visualize yourself relaxing peacefully.

To encourage meditation, some airlines even provide in-flight entertainment in the form of mindfulness films. Headspace is a popular one. This app helps flyers switch off from the stress and work mode, into sleep or focus.

Besides those, there are other great meditation apps you can download and they include the Headspace app, Calm, Simply Being, Inside Timer, and Aura among so many others. Simply pick any you prefer. You can check out our review of the top 7 meditation apps to help you choose.

Items You’ll Need For An Effective Plane Or Travel Meditation

  • Earplugs or earphones without music to shut out the sounds
  • A blanket for warmth
  • Your preferred positive affirmation mantra
  • A smartphone with guided meditation
  • A hat or cap to keep your ears and head warm
  • A pillow for comfort

 

Do you meditate when you travel? Share some of your best meditation practices in the comment section below.

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Response vs. Reaction: Choosing to respond instead of reacting

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Respond vs. Reacting?

How do you behave in stressful situations? Do you take a deep breath, pause momentarily or do you let it all out in torrents the minute the situation hits you?

Response and Reaction: two very similar words, in many not-so-pleasant situations, the differences between the two can be massive. In this post, we’ll examine both words and why one may improve situations or relationships and the other may send relationships crashing or worsen things for everyone.

Before that, however, if you’ve always reacted instead of responding, it is time to consider doing better. While reacting is usually swift at least compared to responding for many of us, it leaves us with guilt after. Besides needing to apologize frequently, you really don’t want to be perceived as the short-tempered when you react in every time in situations, do you? Of course not!

Not sure if you’ve been reacting instead of responding? You’ll find out in this explanation of both and just after that, we’ll suggest some ways you can respond in situations instead of reacting.

Reactions

Reactions emanate from the unconscious mind and it is reflexive. During a reaction, there’s really no filtration at all, at that moment, you’re unstoppable and very little or no thought is given to the things you do and say. You don’t consider their implications, you only want to let it out, minding very little about how others may feel.

Responses

Responses, on the other hand, are thoughtful. When you respond in situations, it means you’ve thought over the implications of your replies before you utter a word or make a decision.

You take a moment to pause, reflect on the advantages and disadvantages of the decisions you make and how they affect the people or person involved in the situation. Responding “indicates” thought, we can’t say the same for “reacting”.

So, which would you rather be?

The individual who manages to create calm and happiness in many situations or the wildfire that not only causes himself stress but also often a pain to others around him? You decide!

Below are 8 ways you can “respond” instead of “react” in stressful situations.

Breathe deeply

In stressful situations, choosing to take a deep breath can go a long way in helping you reduce the stress and built-up anxiety. When you take out time to focus on your breath, you lessen the stress and instead of reacting, you’ll be more likely to respond.

Take some time

You need to take that pause when you get triggered. It could be in the form or taking a moment to breathe, taking out time to observe the situation or just anything at all that adds the much-needed pause to the situation.

Taking this time out can be the difference between strengthening the relationship between you and your partner, child, co-worker and crashing it. Taking a little time to breathe, take a walk or just pause can help you let go of what would probably have been an unpleasant reaction.

Taking the space in situations can also mean taking an, a day, or a week to cool down, reduce or eliminate the likelihood of a reaction and restore balance. Don’t let the heightening emotions get the better of you, take that space or you may end up saying something you never meant and may regret for a long time when the charge of the moment finally fizzles.

The power you get from stepping back is incomparable. True, when caught up in arguments or we hear something unpleasant about ourselves or get told such directly; the tendency to react and get defensive is ever-present. At that moment, remember that emotions are not static and if you give it time by pausing, you disconnect yourself from the automatic reaction and completely change the situation.

Body scan, tense and release

In a stressful situation, practicing the body scan, tense and release can help you reduce built-up emotions. It is a simple exercise. Start by sitting or lying in a comfortable position. Then, take your time to concentrate on each muscle group.

Observe how they feel and stiffen the particular muscle you’re concentrating on as much as you can. Release afterward and you’ll notice how relaxed it feels after the exercise. Continue the muscle tensing process until you’ve tensed and release every single muscle in your body.

Honestly ask yourself why

Sometimes, it is not the present situation that triggers the flare-up; it could have been related to a previous issue. Ask yourself why you’re triggered. Dig deep to know if it was the situation itself or something else.

You want to discover and bring awareness to these triggers and blind spots so a sincere, thoroughly searched for answer, is essential. And if you look deep, you’ll discover that the emotion is not unconnected to something below the surface of the current situation, the reaction was the result of a buildup of emotions.

You only made the moment and the person the scapegoat for your reaction. Step back, take a deep breath and put that very moment into perspective, think deeply about the root of your emotion.

Take a walk/sprint

Taking a walk instead of reacting can help release tension and quell emotions.

Start with a light jog for 10 seconds and then sprint at full speed for another 10. Finally, walk as calmly as you can for 1 minute. You’ll notice the difference in how your body felt during and after the sprint as you walk. If you do this regularly, you’ll realize how much your emotions can affect your muscles and you’ll learn to ease them quickly.

You always have a choice, recognize that

In the heat of arguments and unpleasant situations, it can easily feel like we’re out of options. It can feel like we’ve lost control of the situation and all that we can do in the situation is “retaliate” with words or actions or throw a tantrum.

Soon enough, you’ll realize you had options if you had thought about it with a level head. Yes, you always have options, no matter what you think at that moment about the situation. There is always another way to handle things; in fact, there may even be several options to choose from.

If you know this, you can empower yourself and when situations call for it, you’ll be more prepared to pick the option with the least negative implications possible.

Apologize

Usually, after a reaction, you’ll feel sorry and guilty for your actions or words. Be open, honest and render a heartfelt apology. Learn to do this immediately especially when you realize that the cause of your actions or words had nothing to do with the present situation or the person involved.

Don’t wait to apologize to that coworker, your partner, or child. Or they’ll go through their day believing that your reaction was all because of them. Let them know it had nothing to do with them; they need and deserve that clarity.

And even if your reaction was because of them, take a few minutes after the incident to have a sincere and open conversation with them. You’re not doing this for them alone, but for you as well. Don’t let ego get in the way. Don’t beat around the bush, life’s too short for that and your relationship is precious, do not sacrifice it at the altar of your ego.

In any relationship, when you’re more open and sincere, the more trusting you become with each other and the better your relationship becomes.

Remember the big picture

Realize how much every situation fits into your overall objectives and goals. Doing this makes the task of responding in every situation a lot easier. See the big picture, keep it in mind and remind yourself of how “just a little reaction” could get in the way of your efforts.

Finally, regularly let out the steam. Most times when we react instead of responding, it is often because of the pent up negative energy. Bottled up for long, such energy eventually builds up, resulting in a flare-up.

Don’t let negative emotions pile up, find ways to release them before they grow into something bigger and potentially destructive. Make that conversation you’ve been avoiding happen, talk to friends, practice mindfulness, hang out, talk a walk, jog; do anything socially acceptable to release the tension before it grows big enough to ruin things or relationships. This way, you’ll be more likely to “respond” in a calm manner instead of reacting.

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